Be excellent to each other.
-Bill S. Preston, Esq.
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You may or may not have heard of Scott Jurek. He is, in some people’s eyes (including mine), a running god – a world-class ultra-distance runner, who wins. He won the Western States 100 an incredible 7 consecutive times. He plays a big role in the book Born To Run. The guy can run far and he can do it with speed.
But as impressive as it is that he is so accomplished as a runner, it is Scott Jurek, the man, that impresses me the most. After every race, he will go back to the finish line and wait. He will wait for every runner to come in, cheering them on. Despite being a running deity, he is a nice guy. He is one of us. It is this sense of community, this sense that “we are all runners”, that I find most inspiring. And it is this feeling that I try to emulate.
I have found, for the most part, that runners are a friendly and caring lot. We support each other in our lows, and cheer each other in our highs. I think that part of the reason why we are such a supportive group, is that we tend to not take ourselves too seriously. Yes, we can be serious about our running (just ask the wife), but for most of us (myself included), we know we will never be elite runners, we will never make a living off of running, and therefore we are able to approach running with a sense of joy and fun. Whether you are a 2:45 marathoner (in my dreams!) or a 6:00 marathoner, you ARE a marathoner. Either way, you have to train, you have to put in the miles, you have to sweat. Those miles and that sweat bond us together.
So it was with great disappointment the other day that I heard that two runners I consider friends were no longer friends because one thought the other didn’t take her running seriously enough. Not only did the “more serious” person cut off communication with the other, but she retracted an offer to share a room with the other at this year’s Chicago Marathon. I understand wanting to room alone, but it’s a little difficult to scramble for a hotel room this late in the game (the Chicago Marathon is on 10/10/10). I also understand that two different runners may be in different places when it comes to intensity and focus, but I want to believe that as runners, we wouldn’t leave each other high & dry, particularly when it comes to housing before a world-class marathon like Chicago. By now, most of the hotels downtown have filled up and any vacancies are priced exorbitantly high.
The friend who has been left out in the cold has had a rough year. Running is her place to find peace. It’s a shame that something like this has to crash that sanctuary.
Admittedly, I do not know the whole story. Maybe something was said, maybe something was taken out of context, who knows? But as a person who gets totally amped for marathons, is completely “serious” about training for them, and is looking to do the best I can do, I don’t think it should matter how “serious” someone else is about running.
Am I serious about my running? You bet I am. I have trained hard this summer in anticipation of the Smuttynose Marathon on October 3rd, followed by the NYC Marathon on November 7th. I am on a mission! However, I truly believe that running should be about building each other up, not tearing each other down. If I am trying to accomplish my personal goal of a 3:20 marathon, why should it bother me if your personal goal is different?
There will always be someone who is faster than you, just as there will always be someone who is slower – it is a spectrum, if you will – but we are all runners.
We should all seek to channel our inner Jurek, doing what we can to cheer everybody across that finish line, not throwing up last minute road blocks.
Remember, running is fun.
Party on, dudes!
-Ted “Theodore” Logan
I love this post, even though it made me really sad. I hope your friend finds lodging without too much headache. If she gets desparate, shoot me an email – I’m a good hour out of the city, but it’s free…it’d be nice to have someone to get up with in the middle of the night when I’m stressed like crazy!
Thanks Bobbi! I will pass on your offer, though I’m sure she may have read it here already!
Bobbi – thank you so much for the offer! That’s so sweet of you to even think about opening your home to me!! Luckily I’ve found a place to stay – but thank you again a million times over!!
That is too bad about your friends..hopefully they can resolve their issues.
My run friends are seriously awesome. At my first marathon, some of them waiting an hr just to see me finish. I try to return the favour when I can by coming out to support them even if I am not racing.
….and Bill & Ted quotes on a Friday morning mean a righteous weekend.
Thanks again for writing this – you were able to put in words what I couldn’t. I’m pretty determined not to let this take away what running means to me & friends like you are helping me with that!
Running is also my “peaceful place” in my crazy life. I hope you have a WONDERFUL race, no matter what your personal goals for the day may be…(mine? cross the finish line before they close the course and don’t die, hehe!).
Great post! I hope things work out well for Jenn and she has an amzing race! I also am running Smuttynose…so you’ll be at the finish cheering all us 4+ finishers in? 🙂
You bet I will!
Wow, tough to imagine a falling out like that happening over running, as you said. Glad your friend has found other accommodations and it sounds like she has a good enough attitude and strength to move beyond this.
I am going to be very politically incorrect, just putting it out there before I get yelled at. Do these people have nothing better to do than tear each other down? Okay I don’t know the whole story either…but really in this day and age…get over it. Dear so and so, come to my house and I will be happy to school you in the fine art of conflict resolution. You see I have a special needs child and have dealt with crap for the past 6 years and have not always gotten along with administrators, pediatricans and the like, and I AM BETTER OFF FOR IT! So in my effort to bring peace to your running world friends, give me a call, I’m an easy find.
Yours truly,
A mom who kicks ass and takes names later, way later as a matter of fact.
I love this post! Thank you!
By the way, there are an endless number of 15-minute/mile 5K runners that inspire me every day. It has never been all about a certain level of athletic performance for me. Rather, it is about a certain level of humanity in a person that makes them an inspiration. And sometimes that includes the runners that DON’T take running seriously AT ALL.
I love this. I believe in lifting up, not tearing down.
Great post.